Life begins at Forty
Part I
One of the differences
between Margaret and me when we were discussing marriage was the different
stages we were at in our religious journeys. Synchronising our steps in this
regard was an important challenge.
Margaret was a regular
at the Paihia Open Brethren Chapel Sunday morning services, and in the evenings she
would drive to Kaikohe to the chapel there.
And her main loyalty was to the Te Atatu Bible Chapel, where Denise and
Rod and many of her Auckland friends were based.
As I have said, I had
long ago left such regular religious affiliation behind, though my thoughts
often went to matters of spirituality on Sunday mornings, out of long habit.
So we spent time
discussing the basis of her religious ideas, which she had formed through
attendance at Methodist Sunday School, and later at activities associated with
the Bible Chapel in New Plymouth, and with the Youth for Christ movement as
well.
I talked to her about
my developing ideas in connection with my work in India, in discussions with
Brian Smith, and with thinking since returning to New Zealand.
We discussed the basis
of the authority of the Bible as a set of rules for living, the disjunction
between the ideals preached by Jesus and the practice of the churches, as well
as other specific doubts about some of the central items of “faith” as defined
by evangelical theologians nowadays, like virgin birth, resurrection, eternal
life, and so on. I was reassured when Margaret told me she had also had some
queries about some of these points which had never been adequately explained
for her.
When we moved to New
Plymouth, Margaret started going to her old Bible Chapel again, and soon found
herself questioning their conservatism: women were still second-class members,
as far as she could see. She wanted to make a contribution, as she could in
such activities as the Urenui Beach Mission, which she was part of each
January.
After we had married,
I had joined her at Urenui; we both did the cooking for the mission team for
two successive years. It was always important to me to meet Margaret half-way
in these matters, and the mission team was a valuable service for the
beachgoers at Urenui, quite apart from its Christian content.